Sometimes I seriously stare at the Blogger interface for over an hour, completely devoid of post ideas, because all the things I want to write about are off-limits. To be honest with you, it happens to me most days. Because, naturally, the things that are causing me the most anxiety or excitment or confusion or inappropriate laughter are all going to do some damage - to someone or something - if blurted out here. Put simply, it blows.
Which is not to say that what I put up here isn't real or that I'm not having a good time writing what I do get to write; it's just that I get serious writer's block a large chunk of the time and it's beyond frustrating. But because it's a false-ish, self-imposed block, I feel pouty and annoyed (with all that talk of avocados and favorite couches) and wish I could hook you all in with some of the good stuff.
And don't be fooled by my tantalizing talk of awesome -- I don't even have anything wildly (or, frankly, mildly) exciting happening right now. Just the typical foibles of everyday life. It's only that I wish I could show you a fuller picture of who I am and what I've experienced without hurting feelings or messing stuff up.
Do you, my blogger friends, ever feel that way? What do you consider off-limits and how did you decide? Do you ever just say 'f*$k it' and type it all out?
All thoughts greatly appreciated. And now some Pad Thai.
Well now i'm all curious about what you REALLY want to say, i mean REALLY.
ReplyDeleteI'd test the waters by putting yourself out there little by little and stopping when you feel like it's too much - or just let it all out for the sake of your readers so we can really be voyeuristic at someone else's expense! Hawhahwhawhaw.
Every day. The self-imposed filters for the sake of interpersonal diplomacy robs us of rich content, but it maintains our familial relationships and friendships. Alas.
ReplyDeleteI get really annoyed because I often want to complain about people I work with, but I fear that's not super classy. Some days though, classiness be damned!
ReplyDeleteWe all love the expressive pictures. When you want to communicate in type but are unsure, just post your photo with that thought. We will add captions, emotions, moods...maybe we can read you through your pic. ??The info about tile upkeep...didn't mean it as a mother-in-law jab, only useful info for a new apt. :)
ReplyDeleteevery so often i let something crazy slip out of my mouth. i usually try to follow up my crazy with a nice string of not-so-crazy posts. and then just when you least expect it...I'M CRAZY AGAIN! har. i kid. sort of.
ReplyDeletei like dooce's take on this...don't post anything about anyone that you wouldn't say to their face.
Mmmmm...pad thai.
ReplyDeleteHells yeah, I have that problem. I can let loose here b/c I'm semi-anonymous. My mom is on and off antidepressants, and when she's off, she sucks. And I want to write about it as if my blog were my journal. But it's not. And when she's on she's awesome, and I would never want to hurt her feelings like that.
Also, there's that whole mommy wars thing, and I could give in and get all controversial about a topic, vaccinations, breastfeeding, sleeping methods, etc. but I want my site to be devoid of all that dramatic crap, so I avoid it.
And I'm left with...kiddo likes [insert new food here]. Or hey...I had a pedicure today. Kind of boring. I just hope someone finds it interesting :)
Love your blog, keep up the good work, seriously :)
i feel that way OFTEN.sighsighsigh.
ReplyDeleteyou should email me some time and tell me secrets. i'll tell you some, too.
Thanks for listening, friends. I was seriously mopey last night and needed to do a little First World venting.
ReplyDeleteSounds like we all feel it now and then -- but if we have any interest in keeping our real life buddies, we've gotta zip it. Just more reason to get creative, I suppose?
I think I can probably leak out a little more than I do without the world exploding...so I'll play around with that a little.
I like Dooce's rule, too. And since I'm a wimp in terms of face-to-face confrontation...I should probably keep it classy on here.
But srsly, maybe we need to start an email club for secrets.
ooops sorry a little late on this one. ha i feel like that all the time... i never get to write about the things that really suck because then it just makes it worse. but secret email club? that sounds fun and like inspiration for a y.a. novel.
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